Should my wife stop leaving piles of clothes in the bedroom?

Kevin says his wife, Mabel, leaves a permanent pile of clothes on a bedroom chair he calls “the Monster”. He describes thousands of T‑shirts, trousers and sweatshirts stacked there that sometimes block his side of the wardrobe, making it hard to get ready. Because he works away for half the week he wants Mabel to sort the pile at least once a month, and he says their teenage sons, Erik and Michael, imitate their mother’s messy habits.

Mabel accepts the Monster is permanent but calls it “organised chaos” and says she knows what’s in the pile. She changes clothes three times a day and prefers to keep items where she can see them, arguing she moves the chair aside when Kevin needs access and, as she works from home and looks after the boys, she runs the house her way.

Readers were divided. One thought a monthly tidy felt reasonable and again questioned the three changes a day; another suggested the Monster might reflect deeper issues and urged reflection or therapy.

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