Couple says dark room lets them explore fantasies while staying connected

Conrad, 36, and Callum, 35, say they regularly attend a sex-positive queer party and find the dark room — an almost pitch-black maze of little booths and benches where strangers touch, kiss and have sex — to be "a judgment-free place" where they can "live out our fantasies together." Their only rule is to keep the connection: subtle signals, glances across the room and an unspoken agreement not to disappear.

Attraction, they say, works differently inside the dark room and rejection can be blunt; early on, when Callum was invited into something Conrad wasn’t, Conrad left, a moment that shaped how they now navigate the space together. They describe always going home together and having "hot sex" afterwards that is freer and more explorative — sometimes filming bits, doing it in front of the mirror or being more verbal about fantasies.

They have been together four years and living together for two; their sex drives match even if their rhythms differ, with Callum a morning person and Conrad preferring evenings. Both acknowledge they have adapted sexually, noting much of their sex isn’t penetrative. The dark room, they say, has helped build connection and trust and "removes the mystique around casual intimacy, which makes cheating feel pointless." They use other men "as pawns in our foreplay," always go home together, and say they never regret exploring — only that they wish they did it more.

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