Maybe if you talked about your feelings once in awhile you wouldn’t be getting caught slapping your wife on video

I'm almost 40 and I realized around 5 years ago that feelings weren't actually me. I had no idea I was being controlled by them and when I started really putting it all together I realized I wasn't really making conscious decisions. You don't have to be a "pussy" as Dana would say, but you should be able to recognize them and not do things like hit your wife. If you are doing things like that you should probably talk about them. When you can recognize that it's more like an autonomic reaction it's not really "your feelings".